How Was It For You?

I like it when the ipod on the inside shuffles onto something kinda old and kinda obscure. This song is by a band that I loved the year I lived in England:

Well they said you are as good as you look but that
Would be impossible
For you look even better than the face of God on a sunny day
You look good enough to eat but I've had a bellyful
And now I have this bill but I don't wanna pay
How was it for you?

Of course, I'm different now than I was when I was a twenty-something. At that point I'm not so sure I'd experienced the face of God on a sunny day -- these days I get to see it in three guises: my son's, my daughter's, and my lover's.

I also have much more perspective now on the other person's experience, particularly when I feel like I've been in a position that is similar to one I'm observing in my mate:

Do you really need that drink to disarm defences
Can you ever face the flak when you're in control
Well I don't believe my luck I am defenseless
Do with me what you want but don't tell a soul
Don't tell my soul
How was it for you?
If you ain't out of your head can you ever enjoy yourself
But if you ain't in your head then who's at home?

I'm so possessed by sex I could destroy my health
We could be dancing over coals and we'd never know
We'd never know
How was it for you?
Where did you get those clothes
Are you sure they're still fashionable?
The sell by date says 68
Where did you steal those riffs and that bad attitude
You are traveling back in time to an altered state

I'm also trying my damnedest to live in today but at the same time having to listen to my boyfriend and his friends plan his return to his beloved homeland. This makes it tough for me not to be questioning what this is or was or will be, even though I am pretty sure it is, was, and will be what it has always been: a profound connection capable of heroic deeds but maybe not some of the ones on which I've most set my delicate heart:

How was it for you
Was it as good as it was for me
Well that's the best it's ever been
And you're the best I've ever seen
How was it for you
How was it for you?