Everybody Hurts

This afternoon I had a long talk with my man, mostly about loss. I don't think there's any two ways about it: divorce is one big motherfucking loss. I cried talking to him about both his loss and mine, and I also had a beautiful moment in which I realized that the man I'm in love with now has such a hugely open heart he's never going to close it to me, not even if we decide to split up someday.

Later in the evening I talked to a friend who is still very much in the raw split-up stage, and whose wife I think it is fair to say has definitely closed her heart to him. I totally felt his pain, and the song I'd heard the day before in the car came back to me as I listened to him:

When the day is long and the night, the night is yours alone,

When you're sure you've had enough of this life, well hang on

Don't let yourself go, 'cause everybody cries and everybody hurts sometimes

Sometimes everything is wrong. Now it's time to sing along

When your day is night alone, (hold on, hold on)

If you feel like letting go, (hold on)

When you think you've had too much of this life, well hang on

'Cause everybody hurts. Take comfort in your friends

Everybody hurts. Don't throw your hand. Oh, no. Don't throw your hand

If you feel like you're alone, no, no, no, you are not alone

If you're on your own in this life, the days and nights are long,

When you think you've had too much of this life to hang on

Well, everybody hurts sometimes,

Everybody cries. And everybody hurts sometimes

And everybody hurts sometimes. So, hold on, hold on

Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on

Everybody hurts. You are not alone...