Ships in the Night

Things are slow at the office, so I decided to go to a yoga class at the gym over the noon hour. The instructor for the class is only going to be there for one more week before she "retires" -- basically working for herself instead of for the gym. I also got to meet the teacher who is taking over for the one who is leaving, because she was there as a participant today. She'd mentioned when she introduced herself to the class that she had recently moved to Madison from New Hampshire, so when I introduced myself after class, I asked her what brought her to the Midwest.

I'll give you one guess.

That's right:

Love.

I told her a bit about my recent experience with a relocatee (now ex-relocatee) from New Hampshire. I also told her I hoped she and her boyfriend would have more success, and not end up as we did, as my beloved Mat Kearney sings, ships in the night:

Like ships in the night
You keep passing me by
We're just wasting time
Trying to prove who's right
And if it all goes crashing into the sea
If it's just you and me
Trying to find the light

Maybe, hopefully, she and her boyfriend don't have as much stacked against them as we did -- maybe not so much baggage:

Chasing your dreams since the violent 5th grade
Trying to believe in your silent own way
Cause we'll be ok... I'm not going away
Like you watched at fourteen as it went down the drain

And pops stayed the same and your moms moved away
How many of our parents seem to make it anyway
We're just fumbling through the grey
Trying find a heart that's not walking away

Turn the lights down low
Walk these halls alone
We can feel so far from so close

Yep, that last line sure sounds familiar...

Like ships in the night
You keep passing me by
We're just wasting time
Trying to prove who's right
And if it all goes crashing into the sea
If it's just you and me trying to find the light
Like ships in the night
You're passing me by
You're passing me by
Like ships in the night

I also like these two lines:

Feels like we're learning this out on our own
Trying to find a way down the road we don't know

Uh-huh. And sometimes roads come to dead ends. One of the things Michael Stone said during the workshop that really stuck with me was that the goal of our practice is to move the dead end signs to the beginning of the road so we don't have to go all the way down it before realizing it isn't where we wanted to go after all...